28 Ways to a Woman's Heart

I have been married for more than 20 years so I know a thing or two about making it work.. There is really no trick to it. What women really want is to be treated like they are valuable to you. We all know the best way to do that is to do some thing special for her. Here are suggestions from the most obvious, to the ones that will surprise her and make her really happy.

1. Bring her flowers with a heartfelt card attached. Flowers are great, but it can be a cheap way out of a situation and women know it. If you do bring flowers, attach a card and tell her what's on your mind and why you are giving her the flowers.
2. Take her on a date. No matter how long you are together she will appreciate doing something special with you. Have some romance like at the beginning of your relationship and actually ask her to go on a date with you.
3. Do housework. No one likes doing chores. The fewer we have to do the better, right? Same goes for her, do housework that she usually gets stuck with, and give her a break. You'll appreciate the results.
4. Talk to her. I know that sounds funny. It probably feels like you say enough. If you were around your buddies what you say would be enough, but she won't agree. The more you say the better she will like it.. Now, I'm not talking about complaining, just plain old ordinary everyday details like "what you were thinking at a red light" or "what you saw or read somewhere".
5. Ask her advice. Even if you think you know what you will say or do or wear, ask her what she thinks. Women love to talk things over. It will show her you care.
6. Tell her she's pretty. You married her or you're together, right? Want to keep it that way? Tell her she's pretty. Even on her worst days let her know she's pretty to you.
7. Offer your help. Whether she needs it or not, if you sincerely offer your help she will be flattered. It can be something fun like helping wash her, to something tedious like doing the laundry or shopping.
8. Be very careful when doing her laundry. It's very curious but women's clothes are very different from ours. I just take my clothes and put them in the wash. Wash them on normal cycle, dry them, fold them, and wear them again. Women's clothes are different. They are made differently, they are different materials, and for some reason, they are much less resilient then men's clothes. Pay special attention to the labels for washing instructions. Makes me cringe just to think of it. Did you know they have clothes made out of gause? I always thought gauze was for mummies or emergencies. It turns out they actually make clothing out of the stuff and it has special care instruction, who knew?
9. Plan a trip. Day trip, weekend or vacation it doesn't matter. What is says is; I want to spend my free time with you! Do this as often as possible. Be sure to make it someplace she wants to go. If she doesn't like sports and you know it, don't take her to a game all the time. But sincerely offer to take her if you are planning to go, even if you know she doesn't like it. I know that sounds mixed up, but they feel important that way.
10. Find an activity she would like to do with you and do it. Sounds obvious doesn't it? It isn't. Typically men and women may enjoy different things. Maybe you like to play sports and she likes to jog? Compromise and hike, or climb something together. Or maybe go for a swim. Perhaps one of you or neither of you are very athletic, then read a book together or play a game.
11. Get common friends. Some couples find themselves in the odd situation that they have no common friends. This is a huge mistake. Having no friends in common means doing different things at the same time separately. This is a sure way to break up a relationship real quickly.
12. Compromise, compromise, compromise. Did I mention you should compromise? If you have a disagreement find common ground. Even if it takes ALL NIGHT, and darn it, sometimes it will!
13. Make as much time for play as you do for work and vice versa. Some people only want to work they find it relaxing. Those people can find playtime tedious and a waste of time. There are an opposite group that hate to work and always want to play. Neither extreme is healthy. Often this kind of thing can lead to disagreements over money and or values.
14. Share your feelings. Yes the dreaded feelings subject. I hate it too. I'm just not wired that way, most of us men aren't. Women thrive on feelings. They need to express themselves and you don't she will notice and tell you all about it.....for hours and hours.
15. Write her a note. It doesn't have to be long. It doesn't have to say much. Sometimes a simple "Hi" will do the trick. A quick note once in a while will show her you're involved with the relationship and she will feel romantic.
16. Say "I Love You" and mean it. Isn't that what we've been talking about the whole time? Yes it is. But your woman will actually appreciate hearing the words.
17. Give her space. After a discussion especially a long, heated, emotional one, give her time to think. We men don't need much time. We usually know our minds. Oh, yes we may change our minds even after we already decided on something. That is if circumstances warrant a change. But a woman will want to think it over, and over, and over. Then she will let you know how she feels. Be ready for this because they are very thorough and will have strong logic backing them up! That may seem like reason not to give her space and let her think, but she will be angry if you do, and that is the last thing you want.
18. Go to a class with her. Especially a class on bettering your relationship. I know you think everything is great and are satisfied to come home and watch TV or read the paper, or some other activity you may have routinely planned. She may not be! While you have been busy at what ever you are doing, she has been thinking. She has been wondering. She is trying to find a delicate and subtle way to tell you something is wrong but doesn't have the right words. Worst of all, you don't notice! Taking a class will allow her to get those feelings into the open, show her you care, and establish firm trust. It will make your life easier.
19. Get her something special. Something she would find special. It could be flowers, a card, a gift, a ticket to a movie or show, or something she said she has been wanting. But it is usually not directly about sex. it may be indirectly about sex or lead to great sex but don't bring home something overtly sexual at least without talking to her first!
20. Tell her she's sexy. That is not the same as telling her she is pretty or that you love her. This is a different category. Pretty may be outward beauty and who doesn't want to be good looking? It is not the same as sexy. Sexy is about her essence. It is the inner quality that turns you on and radiates outward. Love is how you feel about her as a person, not about what makes her desirable to you. For example you love your car and your house is pretty. Neither of those things makes you want to have relations with them. Believe me, she wants to hear you say the words.
21. Listen to her. This is tricky I admit. It has taken me a long time to understand this basic principle. Don't just hear what she is saying. Listen to her and understand her meaning. Let's say she tells you about her day. The story starts with who she was talking to. Then what they were talking about (in detail mind you). Finishing with how she felt about it. And lastly with a question to you about what she said! Don't be caught day dreaming. No matter how long the story, or how many people were in it, or the number of details her story has.
22. Let her finish. As in the previous example, the story is long and you're not sure what the point is. Let her get to the end before asking her about the story or she will think you don't want to hear anymore and she will likely get angry.
23. Take her seriously. I know that some of the things she may say may sound trivial. They may be things that you never think about. After all, you're worried about all the stuff you do think about! Remember some of those things may seem trivial to her.
24. Be her hero. You don't have to really be a 'Knight In Shining Armor' to look that way to her. Women just want you to do something caring. Push a strangers car out of the road. Feed homeless people. A gesture of good will. Save an animal's life. Do something kind for an old person. Be generous. Give to or volunteer for a charity. Protect her from rude persons and so on.
25. Be real. Women want someone who is real. If they are to truly like you, be really you. That means being honest about who you are and what you feel.
26. Don't have secrets. They don't have to be big secrets like you're in love with someone else or you're secretly gay, they can be small secrets, like you forgot to tell her something. This is affect her trust in you, and you don't want that!
27. Encourage her. Whatever she is interested in. If it's important to her it's important to you! It's just that simple.
28. Give her security. If you follow all my previous advice and make her feel that her life with you will only get better, that you love her and find her sexy, and she can depend on you to be there for her. She will have security. There is no better or longer lasting way to a woman's heart then providing her with security.